When I was a kid, someone had told me that a good person is not a judgmental person. Never judge someone that you barely know. But, I found that this is a hard thing to do. We often quickly jump into conclusions without even looking at the possible reasons. Even for me. I'm sure many of us had met this situation before. All of my friends said that when they saw me for the first time, they thought that I'm a serious kind of person, basically because of my face (maybe I take after my father heheh). But at the end they know exactly what kind of person I am.
Do you know that in Psychology, they have a topic about making judgment? Now we can see that making judgment is a very important thing in our life. Scientist have made different kind of research to see the connection between making judgment and our nature of mind. They state that we tend to judge people on our first meeting. We judge people through their facial features and quickly decide what kind of person he or she. Is he or she a trustworthy person? That is what scientist found in their research. But, they still didn't found what is the reason that we make the judgment.
I'm not saying that being judgmental is a bad thing or make you a bad person. NO! But I'm saying that when we make a judgment make sure that we think rationally because sometimes we can make a mistake. Have any of you ever wonder what will happen if we make a wrong judgment? What will you do if a big built body man with angry face chase you and tell you to stop? I'm sure majority of you without even thinking will run as fast as you can, right? So do I. But what if a handsome young man do the same to you? What is your reaction? Why?
Well, like I tell you earlier this is face features judgment that even scientist can't figure out why do we even make it. We denied that we didn't make it but unconsciously we make it. Back to the chasing situation above, We run from the first man because we judge him based on his face that he might be a dangerous person but we think that the handsome man is a nice man. But we didn't know that the scary guy and the handsome man both actually want to tell you that your skirt is lifted. Same thing but different reaction. Because of bad judgment that we make, we walk around all the day with the skirt lifted. The first guy probably said "Well, I try to tell you but you ran away from me.".
Same goes with problems. If we have problem and try to find the solution, making a good judgment is a must! Without a proper judgment, we might not find the solution or we get wrong solution. When finding out a solution make sure that we list out all the possible solution without even thinking about it twice. Then we look for each of them and try to judge if the solution have a bad effect in the future. Make sure to take all risk possibilities. When our problem involving other people, make sure we don't get biased. Being judgmental can make you a bad person if you overly and wrongly judge a person or you use your judgment in the wrong situation.
Lastly, before making any judgment, make sure to put ourselves in their situation. When evaluating someone, take note their background, life and current situation. That's why we can't say what kind of person he or she right after the first meeting. We might get a wrong perception or idea about that person. Let I give you a situation to make it more clear. You get a new coworker. But she not even smile at you the whole day! Then, you tell other people that she is an arrogant person. The word will spread all over the office. The next day, no one talk to her because of what you said. But, you didn't even ask her the problem. All people badmouth about her but no one knew that she just lost her grandmother.
Make sure to think twice or trice before you do something. Don't let other people suffer because of you. Remember, what we give we get back. We might be at their place one day. Nowadays, people always jump into their own conclusion without even thinking. Not enough with that, they even spread their own assumption to other people. And then the whole society believe with the story. A story that not even true. A biased story based on the watcher. An untrue story that can change a life completely. So guys, don't easily make a judgment. Do it with a deep though, what if that person is you? Do you like the current situation? If not, STOP IT!
its hard not judge a person based on the first sight.
ReplyDeleteIt is true that we should stop jumping into conclusion easily before knowing the true behaviour of others.
ReplyDeletethanks for the sharing... nice entry btw...
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